Make your life spectacular. ~ Robin Williams ~
At the end of each year, many of us begin to think about resolutions. In thinking about what will be for a new year, we often also find it to be a time for reflection. We think about our life; the story we have so far. Even if you haven’t decided on any new goals for this new year, you can still get inspired to do so.
As we think more deeply about the parts we’re ok with and the parts we’re not ok with, it can encourage us to decide something’s got to change. That leads us to decide what’s going to be different about this year. Thinking about a brand new year has a way of making us also think about the rest of our life. Setting new goals can jump-start a new year in a direction we’re more pleased with. It can be exciting to think of the new that will come into our year and therefore; our life. It offers a new-found energy to go after and become the person we want to be.
You can use the new year to change anything you want to change.
Four most common things I’ve heard people say they’re changing this year.
Have more vacations.
Remove toxic people from their life.
Stay away from drama.
Stop procrastinating – my top goal for this year.
A few months ago I said I’d write about that more some other time. I so need to improve in that area. I vowed to be sure to notice some change in that area before the first month of this new year ended. Well; darn if I still didn’t manage to almost get to the end of the month before I made any real change that I’m satisfied with.
Let me state here that satisfaction is important. But, it should be based on your satisfaction. Not anyone else’s. It’s your goals and your life. So, the level of satisfaction is yours too. If you’re feeling determined but not satisfied with the progress, it’s worth it to take a moment to figure out what’s in the way of your progress. That will help you move past any obstacles. It will also help you know if you’ve taken on too big of a goal. It’s ok to revise it to whatever is realistic. You don’t want to be overwhelmed by a goal.
Take me for example. All credit for failing as opposed to revising goes all to me and only me. The best of intentions alone, was never likely to be enough. Nothing stopped me but myself. Procrastination affects a lot of things if we’re not careful. In my case, whether is was implementing a few changes I knew were necessary, not putting more focus on writing or any of the other things I won’t bore you with, it was me and only me. I’m owning it. The credit is all mine.
Sure; we can often pinpoint what has taken our attention in another direction. Part of mine is showing up to be there for others. The other part is putting off today for tomorrow. If we’re fair in our evaluation, we might also find that we still had some time left to focus on our goals. Not to the point of being overwhelmed. But, just to the point where we don’t entirely sacrifice all focus on the goal for something else. Next thing you know, days turn into months. Then it’s the end of another year.
Let this brand new year inspire you to make your life spectacular.
Don’t wait until the final months of this year to decide you could have done better. Own that now. Most of the year still remains. Right now is a very good time. Keep checking in on yourself. Decide how you think you’re doing so far. Determine if you need to make changes in order to meet your set goals. Be honest about why you’re not making the progress you should be.
A reminder from a very dear friend about dreams and goals.
Two months ago a very dear friend, began a new chapter in her life. She achieved a goal she’d set over fifteen years ago. It included moving to a new state as a young retiree. As her life’s journey carries on; a journey she has insisted on having a say every step of the way, carefully but intentionally allowing her life and her goals to always matter, I am reminded that we should never give up on our dreams for ourselves.
Sixteen years ago I had plans to move nearby (my birth state). I had done all the research anyone could imagine. The year before my plan was to be carried out, my mother passed away. I shut down all plans to leave. I didn’t give it a second thought to stay close to her one other (living) daughter and three grandchildren (one is mine). I guess subconsciously, I called myself stepping into her position. Not literally in title or role. I guess just as the now eldest. To be that motherly figure to any of them who might need me.
Now; sixteen years later, seeing my friend go forward with her plans has been yet another reminder of how life doesn’t sit still while we wait to get it right. But, I am also reminded that as long as there is breath, it is not too late to refocus and carry out all that we want for ourselves.
Realistically though, a lot changed within those sixteen years. There’s the almost sixteen year relationship with my now husband. There’s also, for the past ten years, my elderly ill father whom I can’t quite imagine being too far from. I wasn’t entirely prepared for my story (or dad’s) changing so drastically. This I know for sure. The common theme of my life’s story has everything to do with helping others and making a difference in people’s lives. Evidence of such exists going all the way back to my pre-school years.
For life to be spectacular, it involves having balance between what I need to hold on to and what I need to let go of. Stopping procrastination includes finding a comfortable (for me) compromise that allows me to see my life goals unfold. That is; if a “comfortable” compromise (happy medium) even exists. If not, perhaps that just means rethinking some things. It’s important to be sure what I wanted before is even still what I want. As life changes, sometimes, so do our desires. That’s ok.
You know, as we come to the end of this phase of our life,
we find ourselves trying to remember the good times
and trying to forget the bad times,
and we find ourselves thinking about the future.
We start to worry, thinking, “What am I gonna do?
Where am I gonna be in ten years?”
But I say to you, “Hey, look at me!”
Please, don’t worry so much.
Because in the end, none of us have very long on this Earth.
Life is fleeting.
And if you’re ever distressed, cast your eyes to the summer sky
when the stars are strung across the velvety night.
And when a shooting star streaks through the blackness, turning night into day…
make a wish and think of me.
Make your life spectacular.
I know I did.
─ Robin Williams
Life is fleeting! Fortunately, I am quite mindful of that. You should also be. As for my happy medium; it actually does exist. I’ve known this for some time now. I’m on it. Knowing no amount of time is promised, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t always find ourselves able to be in the very moment we are in. At that precise time, we know where we are and where we wish to be. If you don’t, it’s worth figuring out as you move on with the rest of your life. Being in the present moment is valuable time you won’t be able to get back later.
As you make plans and set goals for this year; for your life, be sure to keep balance between what’s important and what’s not. Avoid being so quick to step into other people’s life quicker than you show up in your own. Every day, insist on being present, I mean truly present, in your own life. You’ll become more mindful that you don’t have forever to be here on this Earth. You’ll change your thinking. You’ll change your life. You’ll make it more spectacular.
You’ve got the floor…
How are you feeling so far about achieving your new year goals? Does it feel too challenging or like there’s too much compromise? What needs to change? Please leave a comment to share your thoughts.